Yet dating can come with some difficulties, as asexuality isn’t typically understood.Some asexual people are sex- and genital-repulsed (terminology among asexuals meaning they do not have sex) and do not want to be sexually intimate with anyone. Their attractions are based on the person and not on sexual attraction.Brian works as the executive director of Asexual Outreach, and leads a team of volunteers to build a national advocacy movement for people on the asexual spectrum, referred to as aces.Here, Brian gives us his perspective on life, love and relationships as an asexual person.What do you want out of your relationships with the people you love, and how do you prioritize those wants?
The mix of liking being with him but not always knowing what I wanted to do with him was extremely awkward and uncomfortable, and we finally decided to step back from the relationship for a while as I tried to figure myself out. I understand myself a lot better, and I want to have a closer relationship with someone, but I don't feel enough attraction to really know who to have that with.' Because for me, it was never about that."—Dan/26/Queer "My past relationship suffered due to a lack of intimacy and at the time.I didn't really know what asexuality was and it wasn't something that I had yet identified with.Some aces, like me, have a strong desire to form romantic relationships with others.Other aces may be interested in building significant friendships with other people, or forming relationships that aren’t romantic or sexual in nature but that may be more committed or significant than a friendship.