You find yourself going out less and less with friends, in case he can spare an hour to see you. Forget planning a nice romantic weekend away, there will always be some reason why it doesn’t happen. The awful cocktail of emotions when (not if) someone finds out about your affair – fear they’ll tell his wife, shame and, weirdly, some small relief. Men who find out will think you’re an easy target for unwanted attention.
In many ways they can seem more mature, attractive and have their lives more together than their shambolic single counterparts. Too many nights of looking stunning in your new outfit only to be admired by the cat as you’re let down yet again. In the unlikely event of being seen out anywhere by anyone he knows, you will be introduced as his niece/ cousin/ babysitter. If he has kids it’s highly unlikely he wants more, even though your imagination is working overtime dreaming of your own little family together. You can never just phone him when you’re having a bad day. Even if he is separated from his wife, that is their business, and you are a threat to their marriage. You may feel that he’s your soul mate but think again. You already know that he's a liar, because he's living a lie with his wife and children. It is no different than being a thief in the night.A real soul mate would not set you on the sidelines. How can you be sure whether you're the only "other woman" he has? She's been married to him for however many years, cleaned up after him when he's sick, raised children with him, sacrificed with him, dealt with the "damn dailies," then you come in at the 11th hour and provide a contrast to that that's new, and exciting and fun. It is no different than breaking into their house and stealing their things.And sadly, as some grow bored of what they have at home, there’s apparently no shortage of them looking to cheat. As well as the big, glaring explanations for avoiding these – feeling bad about yourself and playing a part in ruining a relationship and possibly a family – there’s other things that will leave you with a bad taste in your mouth. Here’s 21 reasons you should never have an affair with a married man.